Hello? Hello? Is Anyone THERE?

I can only imagine what it was like. A new and loud device was installed in the house. It had it’s own table maybe with a beautiful lace doily, just to brighten it up or maybe it was on the wall–you know, with those early adopters. The young people in the home were excited. ButContinue reading “Hello? Hello? Is Anyone THERE?”

The White Mamas

Middle aged, middle class, white woman from the midwest. Biggest demographic group around, right? Right. Except for one thing. No one in my world understands what it is like to be white and have children who are not white, not really, no one but other white mamas of brown babies. When my husband finally stoppedContinue reading “The White Mamas”

Women of a Certain Age: Five Ways

I am two minutes from turning 50, maybe three. I pictured my post-kid world as full of opportunity and new horizons, but here’s the truth: that’s not the way the system works. It’s rigged. Women, especially middle aged women, are still clawing our way out of the valley of misogyny and trying to pave overContinue reading “Women of a Certain Age: Five Ways”

Fighting About the Bleeding

I admit it. Black Lives Matter was a hard sell for me. The lives I love the most in this world are the lives of my kids and my husband. Those are Asian lives. Watching pop culture racist jokes hurled by Black celebrities at Asian people just made me angrier. Chris Rock can go suck anContinue reading “Fighting About the Bleeding”

Never, Ever, Ever, Ever, Never Read the Comments

I read the comments. I know I’m not supposed to. I know that proper mental health hygiene calls for never reading the comments. I think this advice applies to not only press articles online but also on the “stand up and have your say” commentary that people post these days on social media. Because ofContinue reading “Never, Ever, Ever, Ever, Never Read the Comments”

Oh, no. Hate Mail.

I got my first hate mail today. It’s 2017 so it was hate email. And it was really only a little hate-y. It’s not bothering me. I have been taught that the discomfort that I feel as a White person when I am confronted with the hard truth about the prizes and kickbacks I get in this worldContinue reading “Oh, no. Hate Mail.”